It's fairly easy to take ten minutes, sit down with a pen and paper, and create a list of life goals. A great big list of those exciting Bucket List adventures, those glitzy and glamorous possessions, and of course that sense of status you hope to acquire during your lifetime.
This is how many of us travel through life. Sitting down on a whim, brainstorming what experiences and things we want in our lives, and putting that list somewhere out there in the future to work towards. But many times. we find that our goals either become dreams or mundane tasks that we now feel obligated to pursue to say we've done it. On January 1st we set a goal of losing the weight, but by the time February 1st rolls around we've either given up or are doing the work out of obligation rather than energy. Setting goals in this way doesn't work because deep down we want more. In order to feel truly connected to your goals, they need to be born out of the feelings rather than the things you desire out of life.
None of this means you can't have a goal of losing weight, buying a boat, or traveling to far off lands. This exercise is simply a way of ensuring that those are goals you truly want, that they haven't been subconsciously added to your list by outside forces or that they are 'lingering goals' - goals that have always been on your list so you might as well add them to this year's list. Through this exercise it is my hope that you will create a list of goals that are bornn out of your actual desires in life.
So, in our creation of goals, let's switch things up and begin our list with the feelings and emotions we want to enhance in our lives. Today's worksheet will help you lay this all out.
If you are following along with this series, you may be wondering why I am having you re-write your goals week after week. It's deep, scientific, and above my pay grade. But the bottom line is that writing matters - putting pen to paper matters. It creates an emotional connection to your work that simply brainstorming or even typing doesn't give you. So, print the page and write out your list!
If you completed the activity from our last post, you'll start off with the list of your Top Emotions from the bottom of your last worksheet. If you haven't completed our previous activities, take a few minutes to do that now. It will be super helpful, I promise!
Take each feeling on its own. First, you'll find ways you can infuse that feeling into your daily or weekly routine. What small actions or changes in your routine can you do to bring a small burst of that energy into your day? Then take that feeling or emotion and name a few short-term goals - goals that take a few weeks to a few months to achieve. Knowing that you are pursuing these goals because of the emotion and energy it brings you can be game changing. You'll grow that emotion into the journey of achieving that goal rather than hoping that it's sitting there waiting for you at the end. Lastly, what long-term goals do you have that match the feelings you've listed?
Some of your short-term and long-term goals may be found on your list of goals from previous worksheets. Again, we aren't trying to create an entirely new list of goals to pursue. We are simply trying to ensure that the actions we fill our lives with, the pursuits we spend our lives chasing, are fulfilling the emotional needs we have.
Looking at your new list of goals now, do you feel more connected to them? Do you feel that pursuing your goals can now change your life in a deeper way?
As new goals come up in life - as you see your house a mess and mentally add "afford a weekly housekeeper" to your list of goals - you now k now to take the time to ask yourself why? What deeper emotional need is this new "want" trying to fill? Does this goal, project, task bring me closer to growing one of these feelings in my life?